“I had read the psychologists, just as I had read books about addiction while high on heroin. I had read books about bulimia while bingeing. All my life I have lamented the distance between what I know and what I do.”
Melissa is often described as a fearless and unapologetic writer, not concerned with saving face within her work. That is what I admire about her too.
In this collection of personal essays, she is profoundly insightful as she navigates her perceptions and why she has those perceptions. While writing about her sea captain father’s presence and absence during her childhood or reconnecting with her birth father and his family as an adult, or the joys of leaving hickeys on a lover, Febos accounts for every feeling or assumption she has, and she picks it apart relentlessly.
Have you read "Abandon Me" or any of Febos' other works?